My deepest Fear

What’s your deepest fear?
I’m scared of loneliness. I’m scared I’d have no one who cares around, I’m scared everybody would leave at the end of the day. I’m scared the one’s I love most would hurt and abandon me, maybe I’d stop being good enough.
I’m scared of being a failure. I’m scared I’d disappoint my mum. I’m scared I won’t be as great as everyone thinks, I’m scared the potentials we all see in me is just a fallacy. I’m scared I’d marry the wrong man. I’m scared I’d be a lousy mum, I’m scared I won’t be able to protect and provide for my kids as I should. I’m scared I’d walk out on God, maybe I’d just lose faith in God one day and become a mess, I’m scared God would get worn out from a life time of endowing me with grace and mercy, maybe he’d give up on me.
I’m scared I won’t be able to keep up, maybe my scars won’t get completely healed much less heal other’s wounds.
I’m scared of the future, of the unknown.

My fears and insecurity keep me up while other’s sleep. Sometimes I feel so much pressure I want to choke. Other times, I try so hard to make the best of the moment and sink in to depression when the efforts prove futile. I hate it when I fall short, when I allow the flesh take over, it sucks when I can’t control my emotions and sometimes I wonder why I have to try.
Why isn’t everything easy? Why do I have to study to have good grades? Why do I have learn and develop my skills and self? Why do I have to think and still have to control what I think about? Even keeping faith requires my effort and praying,renewing my mind and controlling my thoughts takes such a toll on me at times (I guess that’s why I’m truly human sha).

Okay, I don’t know why I’m typing all this. Maybe because, because, I dnt know. Sincerely I’m not sure.

I’m not perfect (not even close). I’m still a work in progress and it hasn’t been a bed of roses. I have my insecurities and fears too. Hehe! Sometimes when I read a comment on my blog, or get a mail or a ping, mention or whatever about how great I’m doing with my blog I just feel *sigh*, well I feel really good, appreciated, mostly humbled and grateful to God for his work in me but sometimes I feel I’m totally not worthy, like I shouldn’t be able to write, it just feels like a lot of work and responsibility and when I look around at the people who look up to me, I get really scared, I’d prolly fail everyone of them.

I really dunno why I’m writing this, I prolly won’t publish sha.

Right now, I feel like a mess. *Deep sigh* am I the only one having serious down times? Please am I?

Okay, I hate sulking, so I am about to change my thought pattern. Think positive peace. God loves you senseless, he has put people in your life who care about you and you have people looking up to you cause you can handle it, you are up to the task.
-‘m great!!
A great mind neva been encountered…
I am!!!
I affect everything +vely cos…
the God-factor I carry cnt be hidden…
Oh yes!

You know, I always try and make effort to stand up and be better. I don’t Know what tomorrow holds, I have no idea how my future really would be. Oh! God assures me that if I stick with him, my future is going be to more awesome than I can handle hehe but I dnt have the details and because it’s a step at a time (a process) with a condition (stick with God) I get scared I won’t b able to keep up.
Well, I have decided I’m going to leave above my fears and make every moment count, I’m going to be happy and feel whole at every point and step on my way.

You see, our fears just come to paralyse and limit us. Satan feeds our minds with these things so we won’t achieve and become what God wants us to.
Jesus has given us, given me victory over satan and so I can (have) conquered all my fears via Christ.

I may have does crippling thoughts but I won’t dwell on them.
Satan may ‘try’ to get me to fall in sin and if i fall,he would try to make me wallow in guilt, hence creating a distance between me and God, but I have decided not to let him have his way.

I have victory. God is on my side. I have found my purpose and passions and I’m going to stick to them.

I’d study because If I fail I’d feel worse and I’d disappoint my mum.
I’d study my bible and pray because the only time I feel really loved,secured and whole is when I’m in the presence of God and I believe satan knows just how much God loves me that why he’s trying to keep me from God’s presence and shower of affection.
I’d keep being the best friend I can be, even if people don’t love me back, I’d won’t give satan the satisfaction of me hating anyone, keeping grudges or not caring because I feel it won’t be returned.
When it’s time to date, I’d go as the Spirit leads, knowing he won’t led me astray. When I have kids, Jesus would help me raise them as I can.
Basically, I’d always do my best and allow Jesus take care of the rest.
I’d do God’s will, fulfil purpose and use my passions and gifts and scars to inspire, love, heal and make people the best they can be.
And those looking up to me, I have decided that I can’t disappoint you. I know how it feels when those you look up to walk away and disappoint and I won’t do that to you, nah! I’m not that cruel.

I think I just figured out my I’m writing this. James 5:16 says ‘Confess your faults to one another …’

I know that we humans need eachother, we were created to depend on one another. I can’t grow in isolation, keeping all my faults and fears to myself would only give it more room to grow stronger in my heart (wow! That’s a first).
I’m not perfect, never would be. I’m still a work in progress but the work is definitely progressing (wow!). I’m going stronger and I’m becoming better and I won’t let my fears control me. I’d live above my fears, above my sins, above my guilt, above my scars, above my past. God doesn’t lie and he has promised me that exceeding glory would be revealed in me.
The ideas and desires and passions and gifts and POtentIals I have are God given and hence I believe he’d see them to a finished, perfected, desired end product.

I combat my fears why believing the best. Fears are beliefs too, so I change my beliefs to that of positive ones.

I don’t know if this post would mean anything to anyone (I hope it does sha). I just hope someone out there decides to put satan to shame, to live in victory and to not let their fear control and ruin their lives but to convert it to a positive driving force, one that drives you to be everything your fears tell you, you can’t be. One that pushes you beyond your ‘limit’ so you can achieve heights you never would have dreamed about.

Decide with me today, to live above our fear.

Writing this just gave me confidence to stand up, I hope reading this helps you out too. Much love

Eheh! I didnt proof read this, so what you just read is a first, very sincere draft. Forgive the typo’s.


The Sand and The Stone

Two friends were walking through the desert.

At a point in the journey, They had an argument and one friend slapped the other in the face.

The one who got slapped was Hurt, without saying anything he wrote on the sand:

•They kept on working until they found an Oasis,where they decided to take a bath•

The one who got slapped in the face got stuck in the mire and started drowning, his friend Saved him.

After he got recovered from the near drowning he wrote on a stone :

The friend who slapped and then saved his best friend then asked,

The friend replied




Read THE Instructions

This is a message by Victoria osteen ( http://www.victoriaosteen.com ).

The other day I was trying to put something together. It
came with instructions, but I’m just not one who likes to stop
and read the directions. I like to just go for it and figure it
out and not “waste time” if I don’t have to. But, I got stuck
at this one particular point, so I picked up the instructions.
It’s amazing what you learn by reading the instructions! I
found out there are ways to tell if it’s put together correctly.
There are signals and indicators that let me know if there is
something wrong. Without the instructions, I may have put it
together incorrectly and not ever have known it. Sure, I
could make it look right, but without the instructions, it
wouldn’t have operated to its full capacity.
You know, it’s the same way with God. Sure, we can try to
do it on our own, but when we stop and read His
instructions—the Word of God—it’s amazing what we
learn! We learn about our God, we learn about ourselves,
we learn about what to do when things aren’t working
right. We have a better understanding of life because we
have a better understanding about Jesus! He reveals
Himself through His Word and empowers us by His Holy
Sometimes we think God is hidden, but He’s always right
there waiting for us to seek Him. He wants to reveal
Himself. He wants to bless you and reward you for having
a heart that desires to know Him more.
Maybe you’re like me today, and your personality is one to
try figure things out on your own. Don’t take that approach
with your life. When we try to do things on our own, it’s so
much harder. Jesus says that His yoke is easy and His
burden is light. Learn from Him. Read your instruction
manual—the Word of God—and become all that God has
created you to be.
“Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am
gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your
souls.” (Matthew 11:29, NKJV)

•••From Jopesi,
Indeed! If the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable.
If you want to know how to use something maximally, to it’s full potential, you have to consult the manual.
As humans, our manual that contains our purpose is The Word.•••


you are no Mistake

This poem is by RUSSELL KELFER.
It made lots of sense to me, so I decided to share it with you. It give me a new revelation and has imprinted deeply in my spirit. Know I know that GOD doesn’t make Mistakes. He knows All. He knows everything about me and has allowed everything that has happened to me happen for a reason (His reason).


You are who you are for a reason
You’re part of an intricate plan
You’re a precious and perfect unique design,
Called God’s special Man or Woman.

You look like you look for a reason
Our God made no Mistake
He knit you together within the womb,
You’re just what he wanted to make.

The parents you had were the ones he chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom-designed with God’s plan in mind,
And they bear the master’s seal.

No, that trauma you faced was not easy.
And God wept that it hurt you so;
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that into his likeness you’d grow.

You are who you are for a reason,
You’ve been formed by Master’s rod.
You are who you are, Beloved,


It’s all For A reason. Relax! |Life is a Process!

I have lived just about 18 years on earth but I have experienced a lot – Good and BAD alike.
In all though, God has taught me that LIFE IS A PROCESS and that there’s a lesson in everything (and a reason for everything).
I have come to realise that everything I have had to go through has been for a reason.
I know now, that my issues hasn’t just been for me to deal with something but for me to GET something out of it FOR TOMORROW.

Life is a Journey.
Life is a Process.
Life is in Stages.
Life is full of Lessons.
Life is about experiences.
MY LIFE is for a Reason.

God is amazing.
He makes us (makes me) Go through ish’s because he knows we need the experiences to be able to deal and handle our Tomorrow.
I’m certain now that, •it is not just Is•
I know now, that I am what I am today because of what I went through (Good and Bad) Yesterday. I would be what I would be tomorrow because of what I’m going through today.

Hey people, you going through an Ish today?
You dealing with this serious issue today?
You feel like you shouldn’t have to be this and that? That you shouldn’t have to be the one dealing with it all?
You going crazy because you feel it is too much for you to handle?

HE is still GOD, from everlasting to everlasting and so, He’d see you through it.

Relax love, you’d come out of it STRONGER. Your story, your issues would Bless and help People.
You are going through it because God knows you can handle it.
Big challenges birth Great conquerors…

This issue, That issue Is a stepping stone. It is taking you to that next level.

Relax! God is not going to live you stranded.

This is a preparatory stage.

The bigger your challenges, issues and obstacles, The bigger your success and greatness.
Not everyone can successfully handle what you have handled, Not everyone is capable of your insight and strength and faith.
Not everyone is FIT for your issues.

You have this things to deal with because YOu can handle it, because of where YOU are going.

Relax and get as much lessons as you can.
God is with you all through.


Be Strong!!!

Everyone needs encouragement,
Everyone needs to be believed in,
Everyone needs someone to push them a little,
Everyone needs a boost,an incentive to keep going,


Most importantly,

Everyone needs to believe in themselves, everyone needs to be able to encourage themselves,
You need to be able to tell yourself that you can keep going.


Because, if you don’t believe in yourself, it’s going be hard for someone else to believe in you.
You have to love and accept yourself before others can love and accept you.
You dream your dreams yourself, you know better how you want to be, how you want to feel better than others.

Most importantly,

Because, people won’t always be there when you need them.
Your best friend won’t always be around,
Your parents might be preoccupied when you need them,
Your spouse might be having his/her own issues to deal with.

Everyone you would need at that time of your depression, lack of enthusiasm, at your down time may not be there.


Because everyone has and always would have their own issues to deal with and yes! They won’t always have the right words and things to do to make you feel better.

What then is our solution to reduce dependence and to accept well the situations that we have to handle ourselves?

God First!
God never leaves nor forsakes us.
He knows us better than we know ourselves.
He knew us and was already taken care before we where even conceived.
He feels what we feel.
He never gives us more than we can handle.
He has promised he’d see us through every situation.
He has done it before. He is the same God, He is I am, hence, He can and will always do it again for us.

Go to God, Go to his Word and you shall find Solace, Bliss and Peace.
He’d envelope you with all you need to go through it.

Secondly, Consult your inner self!

A very common flaw now,
A fault that most people possess now,
We look outside for happiness
We feel that if we have this or that we’d be happy. We have neglected our inside, the true source of Happiness, Of Joy!
Materials things, People, Places won’t always be available but
Us, Our within, Our inner Man is ever present.

If we start looking on our insides, we find ever flowing, non-shaken Joy and Happiness. Looking within, guarantees Ever present Joy (Even when the outside is in turmoil).

We have to start encouraging ourselves…
With God’s promises, With the little efforts we make, with our best effort (even if it looks not good enough. — but hey! REMEMBER though, That you best efforts are The Best enough).
Encourage yourself with past victories (If you could achieve something in the past, You have the abilities to Achieve another -greater one- Now and in the Future)
Encourage yourself with Fun memories, Times that made you laugh, times with friends and Family (this times would bring a smile to face and can lift you off a bad mood).

You have a right to be happy, Nobody, nothing has to key to your happiness except YOU.
Be happy!!!


Vanity! It is all Vanity

Ready or not, Someday it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrise or sunset,
No more second, minute, hours or days.
All the things you laboured for and acquired will pass unto another.
Wealth and power will become irrelevant.
What you owned or where you owned it won’t matter.

Grudge, resentment, frustration, jealousy will finally be over.
Hope, ambitions, plans and ‘to do list’ will expire.
Tribes, gender, skin colour, beauty and brains will not matter.

What will matter is your act of integrity,compassion,courage, your sacrifices that enriched, empowered or encouraged.

Its not what you got but what you gave…
Its not what you learned but what you taught…
Its not your competence but your character…
Its not how many people you knew but how many will feel your loss when you are gone…
Its not your memories but the memories of those that love you…
Its not how long you are remembered but by who and what you are remembered…

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident, It takes conscious effort, decision and discipline. It takes a life dedicated in God, A Life wholly surrendered and that trusts in God, it takes the Holy spirit controlled mind, attitude and character.

Conscious effort!!!

“For those who dilligently seeks God shall find him”
“If you thirst, You shall be filled”

Make the decision to Trust and believe today (so your life can matter) and God will take it up from there.