When a Million Sorries wouldn’t make a Difference.


Nights are usually the hardest, that moment just before I doze off is when my mind does a flashback and my heart beat increases its temple by a million. It’s when I feel the pain, get a taste of my own stupidity and cry out hot tears that substitute for what I can’t say.

This is probably one of the very few things I’d regret for the rest of my life – as I write this, the only thing I can remember regretting. One of those mistakes that changes one’s life forever. Continue reading


Life is about

Life is about trusting your feelings…
Life is about taking chances…
Life is about learning from the past…
Ts about realizing people change…
Ts about losing and finding happiness…
Life is about appreciating the memories…

Life has the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful…
Life is about having experiences, it is about hoping and having Faith…

Life isn’t about finding yourself, ts about creating yourself…
Life is less what happens to you and more how you respond to it…



Moments that change lives

I don’t know the exact moment my life changed. Was it when I was at home giving my colleagues ideas on some ish? Or was it when I became the mediator between my colleagues and our boss? Or was it when I woke up that monday morning and realised,  I was really at the summit? Or was when it i was chosen to lead that little group even though i protested against it? Maybe it was when I unconsciously took up the responsibility to get my group (go team Red, hehe) in place so we could get to work or maybe it was when my group officially made me the leader or maybe it was when I got up on stage and began the presentation or maybe it was day that, over a year ago at a seminar where I met Alex and he gave him his card or just maybe it the day I finally put all efforts in sending my application or maybe it was that day over two years ago when I met Ejay because but for Ejay I wouldnt have gone for the meeting point and i wouldnt have met alex and I probably wouldn’t be writing this.

Anyway, whatever moment changed me isnt as important as the fact that I’m changed and its for the better.
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Love, Lust… Which?

Elena set the bottle of wine on the side , removing her shirt she looked at me and asked,‘ hey you don’ t mind if I go bra – less to do this do you? Some people get funny about it ?’ ‘ Oh god no it ’ s fine I ’ m doing the same’ I replied as she tugged her bra off. I couldn’ t help but stare a little as her breasts sprang free, they were smaller than mine with distinct dark nipples to match her colouring, she caught me looking and grinned. So I proceeded to remove my dressing gown and was naked aside from a black thong.

Alright…pause…you feel that thing happening to you?
That there my friend, is LUST. If someone gives you this feeling, know that you lust after that person. Lust is all about sexual desire and it is selfish. You’re totally focused on a person’s looks and body. You’re interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.You are lovers, but not friends.
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What if we just loved gay people

The concept of homosexuality has been on my mind for days now and after having a conversation on it last night, I have decided to write and share my thoughts.

Homosexuality from my Point of View:

Before anything, let me say this “I love God and I respect His authority and as a Christian,  the Bible is my highest authority;  what God’s word says is final. Hence, I agree that sleeping with (having sexual activities with) someone of same sex is wrong (1cor6:9, rom1:27, lev18:22, lev20:13, 1tim1:10) but I don’t agree that having feelings (been attracted to) someone of same sex is a sin. Why? Because, we dont have control over our feelings. Just the way we all find we have some muchy feelings for someone of opposite sex that’s how some others find they have feelings for same sex. They dont choose it, they wake up oneday and realise it. Their decision to act on it is a different matter tho, one the Bible passages mentioned earlier already addresses.: Continue reading


Better late than sorry

I’ve been single for a while now. The thing is; amongst my friends, i’m the only one still single and of recent, they have all been mocking me. They seem to believe I do not have what it takes to get a girlfriend. Uhm…dont get me wrong. When i say “girlfriend”, I don’t mean just any girl to sleep with. I’m talking of a girl i will be committed to as she will be to me.

Now, i’ve been given three weeks to get a girlfriend if I want to keep my ego intact. Unfortunately, I accepted this challenge.
This is Week two, nothing has been achieved but I have stopped to think and i realized, The Idea of being in a relationship is so beautiful and rosy that we forget what is important and what is not in our lives.
From my previous relationship, i learnt that relationship is only fun to be in when you really enjoy being with your partner.
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Why do people Cheat?

I was reading Chimamanda’s AMERICANAH sometime ago when I had this revelation (as I like to call it) about Cheating. Let me just say I was able to understand people better (this isn’t an excuse for cheating and it definitely doesn’t make it right but I gave me one more reason not to judge).

So why do people cheat? Or rather why do the most faithful of people cheat? By this I mean those men or women who have never thought about cheating before, who don’t look outside or compare their spouse to others, who have happy homes and love this spouse senseless but by reasons unknown to them find themselves flirting with, having sex with, or just going out on dates with someone who isn’t their spouse. Continue reading