I’m In Love

I wake up Each morning with you in my thoughts.
I sleep only after you have spent a minute (or two), sometimes An Hour (or two) in my thoughts.
My day always has you as an integral part.
My thoughts always comes right back to you.

My past looks wasted because you weren’t in it.
My presence is never whole without you in it.
My Future looks bleak without you in it.

My deepest Down’s are caused by you.
My highest Up’s are caused by you.
My most annoying Frown’s are caused by you.
My most genuine smiles are caused by you.

When life tends to be in circles, you become my circumference.
When life goes really straight, you are like my parallel.
In it all, I find you somewhere.

I wonder how we got here.
Few months ago, if I was told You’d mean this much to me, I’d have strongly disagreed.
I don’t how I could Love You this much.

The depth of my attraction for you WOW’s me!
The intensity of my passion towards and For You is scary!

Dealing with you is …
Coping with you is …
Loving you, has been …
Yea! Yea! You make me lost for words.

I don’t know if this thing we have would last forever,
But I know I’d love you forever.
We might not be there for each other at the long run,
But Distance and schedule won’t take my love away.

We have had times, Good and Bad alike.
We have made memories and memories (Oh! Some memories tho! *clears throat*).
… Things that have Stuck for eternity.

Sweets! I don’t how tomorrow would be for us.
I do know that somewhere along the line, Some things would stop.
Buh, I know That’s it’s you and this is a love that won’t ever quench.

I’m IN LOVE with you.
I can’t say confidently, that I like it but I know I can’t Help it.


How to Love Unconditionally and Stay Sane

After two painful divorces, I learned several valuable
lessons about love and marriage that I was sharing with a
friend awhile back. You may be reluctant to take
relationship advice from someone who’s on her third
marriage, so take what I’ve learned with a grain of salt. But
I wish someone had taught me these lessons years ago.
13 Things I’ve Learned About Unconditional Love
1. Unconditional love is epic. You can’t earn it. You don’t get
to choose who receives it. It goes beyond all logic and
exceeds your ability to understand it. It just is.
2. Unconditional love doesn’t just apply to romance. While
you may love your partner unconditionally, you may also
unconditionally love your parent, your child, your best
friend, or your ex-lover.
3. Unconditional love doesn’t always make sense. You may
unconditionally love your abusive, alcoholic mother or the
brother who molested you or the husband who betrayed
you. You may have every reason on earth to hate someone,
but you love them anyway. That’s how unconditional love
4. Unconditional love is boundless. By definition, there are no
conditions on unconditional love. It is a gift someone
doesn’t have to earn. It’s Divine love. It’s a form of grace.
The person you love could become a drug dealer, form a
prostitution ring, molest a child, and then kill someone –
and you might not like what they’ve done, but you will still
love them.
5. You can love the person unconditionally and still hate the
behavior. The person you love unconditionally may
disappoint you in a thousand ways. But when you love
unconditionally, you can separate the behavior from the
person, rejecting the behavior without rejecting the person.
6. Loving someone unconditionally doesn’t mean being a
doormat. Even if you love someone with this kind of epic
love, you don’t have to tolerate bad behavior. If he cheats,
it’s okay to leave. If he hits you, it’s okay to separate. If she
tears you apart every time, you don’t have to keep going
home. You can love unconditionally and still set
7. Unconditional love doesn’t mean staying when you’re
unhappy or unfulfilled. Sometimes we unconditionally love
a partner who isn’t meeting our needs. Maybe your partner
doesn’t feed your soul, squelches your creative potential,
and threatens to hold you back from living out your calling
and reaching for your dreams. As much as having
unconditional love for someone can enrich a relationship,
the presence of unconditional love doesn’t mean settling for
less than you truly desire in life. Sometimes it’s time to
move on – and that’s okay. It doesn’t weaken the love or
mean you’re a bad person. You can leave, and even if you
break someone’s heart, you can still love that person
8. We enter into sacred contracts with those we love
unconditionally. We are here on earth with those we love
unconditionally in agreement to help each other grow. To
complete our assignments, we face challenges together.
How we navigate these challenges is part of what we’re
here on earth to learn.
9. Unconditional love relishes the individuality of another
being. When you love unconditionally, you love someone
for who they really are – not who you want them to be.
When you love someone unconditionally, you encourage
authenticity. You celebrate diversity and non-conformity,
you agree to disagree, you encourage debate, and you
don’t take it personally. You stop faking it with each other.
You give that person permission to live and speak his or
her truth, even if you don’t agree with what he or she
10. Unconditional love may not be reciprocated. Every
individual has a different capacity for opening their heart.
You may be more gifted in loving with an open heart than
the person you love unconditionally. It’s not personal. Be
grateful that you have this capacity to love, and try not to
take it personally if the person you love isn’t able to return
the epic love you have. If your love isn’t reciprocated, don’t
let it keep you from opening your heart to others. As much
as it can hurt to have your unconditional love
unreciprocated, you have to give people permission to
break your heart in order to experience the blessings of
being loved unconditionally by others.
11. Unconditional love never ends, even if the relationship is
over. By its very definition, unconditional love is not
conditional. The love can go on beyond when a relationship
ends. You can love someone unconditionally who you
haven’t seen in twenty years. Unconditional love can even
continue after the person you love dies. This kind of love
never ends.
12. Unconditional love is worth the risk. When you give your
heart away fully to someone, you assume risk. Someone
could hurt you. You’re saddled with a love that will never
end. It can be scary and painful and exhausting to love
unconditionally. But dare I say that this is the meaning of
life – to learn to love unconditionally and be loved in
return? Yes, that’s what I believe.
13. To love unconditionally is divine. When we love
unconditionally, we channel the kind of love the Divine has
for us and become vessels of healing, nurturing, and
It’s such a fine balance. One of my wise clients said, “Love
that requires you to compromise your integrity, your values,
or your healing isn’t, ultimately, love.” Or is it? Maybe
people who demand that you compromise your integrity,
your values, or your healing shouldn’t be allowed to
influence you, and if you can’t set those boundaries and still
have them in your life, perhaps you need to take a break
from them.
But is it not love? I’m not sure. I guess I think you can still
love someone who asks you to compromise. The difference
is that you don’t have to acquiesce to anyone’s demands,
even if you love them unconditionally.
Do You Love Someone Unconditionally?
Tell us your triumphs, your challenges, your feelings, and
your stories.

Unconditionally yours,
MD: Founder of http://www.OwningPink.com, Pink
Medicine Revolutionary, motivational speaker, and author
of What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your
Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art:
The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.


Learning to Love unconditionally

By KC Dang
Extracted from http://www.tinybuddha.com

“The most important thing in this world is to learn to
give out love, and let it come in.” ~Morrie Schwartz
Love is a strange and beautiful thing.
I always thought I knew what love meant. I grew up
hearing the words all the time. It was on TV, in books
and magazines, and people all around were saying it.
I thought I knew how to love. I mean, I told my teddy
bear that I loved him because he kept me safe at night.
I told my sister that I loved her, only if she was nice to
me and would play the games that I wanted.
But if I didn’t get that new limited edition beanie baby,
I felt differently for my parents. If my friends at school
didn’t give me the birthday presents I wanted, I felt
differently for them.
I seemed to only love the people and things that would
give me something in return and that would allow life
to go on the way that I wanted it to.
I never truly felt love, a love that was unconditional
and all encompassing, until the day I first saw my dad
My friends always tell me that my father is the
happiest man that they’ve ever met. He greets
everyone with open arms, and his smile is so big you
can practically count all of his teeth.
The other day I came home, and my dad looked
sullen, the smile usually spread across his face
missing. He looked into my eyes and just collapsed
into my arms, sobbing.
I could feel his sadness before I even heard the tears,
from the way he put his entire body weight on me as if
he needed help just standing, and the way he gripped
me so tight like a child does with his mom on the first
day of school.
My sister had just made a rash career decision that
would leave her in a large amount of debt and
temporarily unemployed. And my dad just didn’t have
the money that she needed to help her out of her
Growing up, my dad always told us that his one
purpose in life was to give us the life that he never had.
And in his eyes, at that moment, he had failed.
You see, my parents are first generation immigrants
from Vietnam. They come from impoverished families,
both with more than 10 siblings each. Their journey to
America is almost like a fictional tale to me, something
that they rarely talk about, with my dad escaping first,
then my mom, aunt, and sister, who almost didn’t even
make it out alive.
At first, the American Dream wasn’t all that it was
made out to be. Yes, freedom rang, but so did the
challenge of learning a new language, a new culture, a
new way of making money and supporting a family.
But somehow, they did it. They raised my older sister
and put her through college. They raised my aunt, and
put her through college. They raised my twin sister and
me, and put us through college. And in the midst of all
that, they found a way to sponsor all of their own
siblings to emigrate to the land of the free.
It didn’t come easy though.
They accomplished all of this, even if it meant working
two (at times three) jobs. Even if it meant scrubbing
floors, toilets, hospitals, classrooms. Even if it meant
working all day and night and surviving on only two
hours of sleep.
Even if it meant tears and days where we all just cried
ourselves to sleep.
Growing up, my dad gave me everything I wanted. He
let me play sports, bought me nice clothes and toys, a
new car—even if he had to sneak by my mother so
that she wouldn’t get upset about how much he was
spoiling me.
But at the same time, my dad expected straight As,
and to succeed and excel in everything that I did. At
times I would get so mad at him and scream and
complain about why he made me study so much when
all of my friends were out having fun. His reply was
always, “So you don’t ever have to live a hard life like
I always wondered how my dad made it, how he and
my mom brought up three successful children and
stayed together through it all.
This year, my parents will have been married for 35
years, and to say they’ve been through a lot is an
understatement. They made sacrifices that threatened
their relationship with each other, with their brothers
and sisters, and even their own parents—all for us.
There is never a day that goes by where my dad
doesn’t tell me “I love you” before going to bed. It’s
with this unconditional love that keeps him going
strong, and that keeps him smiling every day no
matter how tough things can be.
I was blind to this until that day I saw my dad at his
most vulnerable point. Looking at him, bent over in my
arms like a little child, I realized that unconditional
love does not come easy; it is something learned and
It is through the toughest times, the happiest times, and
every single obstacle of life that you can discover new
ways of loving.
I did that day as I held my daddy, my hero, in my
arms. I discovered just how to finally let the love come
in that my dad had been giving me for 22 years, and
not question or find a reason for it.
My dad has taught me that to love unconditionally is to
love with absolutely no boundaries. Even when it hurts,
his love is never failing; it stays limitless, never
There are times in our lives when loving someone else
seems nearly impossible because of the difficult
situations that we find ourselves in. There are times
when we say harsh things to people we love just
because things aren’t going our way, or because they
made us unhappy.
In these situations, we find ourselves putting provisions
on love. We attach it to how others are acting, and
whether they reciprocate the feelings we give to them.
We attach it to the circumstances and emotions that go
on in a single moment.
We find ourselves holding back, fearful of being hurt,
afraid to sacrifice a piece of ourselves. But what if we
looked beyond all this and just loved?
Love because you’re grateful for the things someone
has done for you. Love because someone needs you,
needs a friend to lean on during their struggles. Love
even when it is difficult, even when your mind tells you
that you shouldn’t.
Love by looking beyond people’s faults, struggles,
and whatever pain and hardships that life may bring.
This unconditional love is something that can so easily
be given if we recognize it, and that can change
someone else’s life completely.
When we love and treat each other with the utmost
care and attention, the little things that bother us seem
far less overwhelming.
What would the world be like if we stopped looking to
get something in return, and just loved unconditionally,
for the happiness and inner peace it brings us all?


Random | introduction to Unconditional love

This morning my friend asked me ” Itimi, how is it possible to love unconditionally? Mehn! How did Jesus do it?”
I couldn’t give a concrete answer so I just smiled.
Thinking about it now, the only thing I can say is Loving Unconditionally is Hard.

How do you look beyond faults, flaws, lies and disappointment? How do you love someone who hurts you again and again? How do you love someone who doesn’t take your love serious or who takes you (and your love) for granted? How do we love beyond? How do we love even after all? How do we love unconditionally?

From experience:
I know that Loving isn’t easy.
It’s Pain, it’s hurt, it’s Fun, it’s joy… It’s a tragedy, It’s an enigma, it’s beautiful, complicated.
Love is a responsibility
Love required effort
Love is not easy.
If you claim to love, then you got to be able to take a lot of bullshit and bliss.

That is just Loving.
A love that can so choke you that you decide to stop caring, to stop loving, to just leave.
Conditional Love.

Now let’s check out Unconditional Love
If loving conditionally is as I described above, how is unconditional love like???
Unconditional Love is Love at it’s peak. It is Love – true love no matter what. It is forever.
Unconditional love is not choosy, unconditional love accepts and bears all, it never stops, it doesn’t leave, it loves beyond all flaws, it overlooks all faults. It is as described in 1Cor 13.
Yes! As human’s, unconditional love is hard. It requires patience, Tolerance, Strong will, a willing heart, a prayerful person and God’s grace. But hey! It’s possible.
Abeg e!

Bla bla bla!

I’m in love (wrong)…
… Sorry, at the moment I can say, I love someone unconditionally (sometimes I wish it was someone else I loved liked this) and truly it drives me crazy.
It’s beautiful but I hurt a lot because it’s like my •unconditonal love• Is not returned. Sometimes I wonder if this person loves me at all. I take lots of bullshit, I have had to deal with a lot of cold shoulder. There’s the jealousy part when the attention that’s supposed to mine is given to someone else without me being reasoned.
I just always have to deal with ish’s, makes me get •into my head• A lot. Makes me crazy and unsettled.
I have tried to •fashi• This person, I have tried to leave, I have tried to reduce the love, I have tried to forget but it never works. The loves just intensifies instead.
Drives me crazy.

But Well, if Jesus can love. I can too.
If God loves me no matter what, then I can love others too no matter what.

I JUST decided that I’m gonna keep loving, cause the truth is Love always brings the positive. So either, My love and worth would be fully appreciated one day and the love would be returned (By this person) or I’d just get it from someone else (or people sef!)…

Lord Grace to continue sha.

Hehe! I googled unconditional love, so I’m gonna share some stories about it that I found there. Enjoy!


Zen Stories | A Cup of Tea

Zen is a form of Buddhism that places emphasis on
attaining awakening or the “path of enlightenment.” It’s
used as a method of trying to discover the true meaning of
life. Zen teaches its followers to strip away their “layers” –
their expectations, opinions and even beliefs – so that they
can see the truth of who they really are and what they really
want in their lives. Zen encourages its practitioners to
meditate to find their “Buddha-nature.” It teaches that
Buddha-nature is a natural state of wisdom and virtue that
everyone has inside of them. Zen stories, or “koans”, are
told with the express purpose of trying to get the listener to
open their mind to the possibilities that life offers whether it
involves dating or money, exploring possibilities that they
themselves have never considered.

Now, A Story…
Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era
(1868-1912), received a university professor who came to
inquire about Zen.
Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then
kept on pouring.
The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could
restrain himself. “It is overfull. No more will go in!”
“Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own
opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless
you first empty your cup?”

This was the first Zen story I ever read. (It is the most Famous Zen story too tho).
Well, A friend told me about Zen, She then googled it and gave me the story I just shared with you to read. I was ‘Wowed’ by the story.
It made so much sense, at that very moment I realised that:

Most times,we do not keep our opinions and beliefs aside when we come across something new. As a result, we tend to be biased (unconciously tho!), and judge that new thingy based on what we already know about something similar or what someone else has said about it. That way, we end up not getting the ‘Full Gist’ and learn everything we are supposed to from and about it.
I think that’s why people always say “if you want to learn something, come as a child (like stupid and totally humble) that knows absolutely nothing about anything” only then Can you fully grasp what you should.
Wait! Even the bible says it in Mark10:15 “Truly I tell you, anyone who will
not receive the kingdom of God LIKE A LITTLE CHILD will never enter it.””

Really, if we don’t empty our cups, if we don’t keep our opinions and beliefs aside, We won’t ever really learn anything.


The hardest commandment

I was ‘perusing’ My Bible and I came across Luke 10:27 “You must Love the Lord with all your heart and LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOURSELF” and immediately my mind went to Matt 22:39 “and this is the second greatest (commandment) LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOURSELF”

Shoot! I have heard and read this scripture before but it just made sense to me (Rhema).
So with some ‘putting together’ of thoughts, I realise I’m actually supposed to love my neighbour as myself. Like I’m supposed to Treat my neighbour (Friends, Family, acquaintances, Church members, classmates, school mates, road-side person, hostel mates… Like every human being) like I treat myself.

So I’m like OMG! This is the hardest commandment (right?).
I will not kill, I will not steal or tell lies, I will not covet, I will not go against the commandments. I can decide not to do all the things God has commanded me to do successfully but how can I successfully LOVE another person, the same way I love myself?

How I can love that girl that is very rass the way I love myself? How can I love that boy that smokes and sleeps around the way I love myself? How I can treat the girl next door who doesn’t know how to talk, the same way I treat my best friends talk less of the way I treat my self?
Is it possible to love and care for everyone the same way?
Even among friends, they is the best friend. Parents have favourite children. Kids love either their mum or their dad more.
It’s seems ‘impossible’ to love a madman on the street or a prostitute, and now God is saying love them, not just love them but love them as you love yourself.

But hey! God is saying,

If you forgive yourself, then forgive others.
If you won’t hurt yourself then don’t hurt others.
Do to others as you want them to do to you.

One thing I know is that, God doesn’t leave his people stranded. If he gives a destination, he’d give directions. If he gives an order, he’d say how to go about it. He never leaves us stranded.

So yes! I know that he has given us the grace and everything needed to Obey this commandment!
Thank you lord.


Read THE Instructions

This is a message by Victoria osteen ( http://www.victoriaosteen.com ).

The other day I was trying to put something together. It
came with instructions, but I’m just not one who likes to stop
and read the directions. I like to just go for it and figure it
out and not “waste time” if I don’t have to. But, I got stuck
at this one particular point, so I picked up the instructions.
It’s amazing what you learn by reading the instructions! I
found out there are ways to tell if it’s put together correctly.
There are signals and indicators that let me know if there is
something wrong. Without the instructions, I may have put it
together incorrectly and not ever have known it. Sure, I
could make it look right, but without the instructions, it
wouldn’t have operated to its full capacity.
You know, it’s the same way with God. Sure, we can try to
do it on our own, but when we stop and read His
instructions—the Word of God—it’s amazing what we
learn! We learn about our God, we learn about ourselves,
we learn about what to do when things aren’t working
right. We have a better understanding of life because we
have a better understanding about Jesus! He reveals
Himself through His Word and empowers us by His Holy
Sometimes we think God is hidden, but He’s always right
there waiting for us to seek Him. He wants to reveal
Himself. He wants to bless you and reward you for having
a heart that desires to know Him more.
Maybe you’re like me today, and your personality is one to
try figure things out on your own. Don’t take that approach
with your life. When we try to do things on our own, it’s so
much harder. Jesus says that His yoke is easy and His
burden is light. Learn from Him. Read your instruction
manual—the Word of God—and become all that God has
created you to be.
“Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am
gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your
souls.” (Matthew 11:29, NKJV)

•••From Jopesi,
Indeed! If the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable.
If you want to know how to use something maximally, to it’s full potential, you have to consult the manual.
As humans, our manual that contains our purpose is The Word.•••